Professional Development: Overcoming Business Networking Anxiety: It Just Takes Practice

Would you prefer not to walk into a social function alone? Are you usually the first to arrive? Have you scheduled a meeting with a client and one of the firm's partners, but the partner arrives late, so you end up carrying the conversational ball for a period of time? These situations can be uncomfortable, but there are ways to overcome the discomfort. The following are a few tips that will help you feel prepared and confident in networking situations.

Prepare for Small Talk

Anticipate the fact that you will make small talk. If you are not normally a gregarious, outgoing person, it is difficult to know what to say to strangers or people you have just met. The thought of sharing a meal at an event with a table of unknown individuals can leave a person with a loss of words. Prepare yourself for small talk by doing the following

• Read at least the front page of one newspaper a day (in print or online) – a local paper is always available even if you are traveling, but choose a global paper like the Wall Street Journal or USA Today which is usually available in hotel lobbies. Discussing world events (stay away from religion and politics) is a suitable conversation starter.
• Listen to a news radio station if you do not have time to read the paper – this is a good way to use your time wisely when you sit in traffic, on the subway or on a bus on the way to an event.
• Read industry related newsletters or publications, (in print or online) – if you are attending an industry function or meeting prospective clients, this is must.
• Peruse professional journals for hot topics – this is an excellent source of information that will demonstrate your expertise in the field or industry.
• Subscribe to an executive summary publication or audio service – the summaries they provide are from the latest business books, journals and magazines. You will sound as if you are extremely well read.
• Download podcasts – many professional associations, radio stations and educational companies now have programs, updates and other tidbits of information that you can download.
• Ask questions – asking questions then actively listening to the response can endear anyone to anybody. All people like to talk about themselves, so ask open-ended dialogue encouraging questions.

If you are at a complete loss of what to say to someone, a simple technique is self-disclosure – by confessing this is your first meeting, or that you dislike the fish that was served, you open a personal conversation with an individual. Once you have engaged the person, then you can switch to small talk or business-related topics.

Upon Arrival

When you first arrive at an event, assess the situation. Look around the room. Where is the food, the bar and the head table? Determine where people are congregating. Are they by a bar, a vendor table or just standing around? Is there an activity such as a display or entertainment that people are involved in? Gaining a sense of the room will alleviate some of your discomfort.

Shift your Mindset

This is the time to kick in the “host” behavior your mother taught you. Hosts are in charge and they exhibit gracious manners, greet people, introduce people or start conversations. Change your mental state from being a guest to a host. Even if you are a guest at an event, take it upon yourself to notice lost individuals and direct them to the bar, point out that table 4 is in the corner, or start introductions around the table.